It's as Simple as Re-Framing Your Atti-Tude!


It's as Simple as Re-Framing Your Atti-Tude!


Over the weekend I had lunch with a friend that I've known for many years. She's a successful and upbeat kind of gal and lots of fun to be around. She was troubled about something and wanted to run it by me to get my thoughts - which we've done for each other many times over the years.


Out of the gate she said she was bummed because her income was down about 20% this past year and she wasn't sure how that happened. So we talked about all the usual ideas of  why business goes up or down and just nothing seemed to gel for her.  I then asked her what she was feeling good about and honestly was flabbergasted by what she told me!


She had managed to save over $30K in savings and contributed a substantial amount into her 401K. She then said she's never EVER been able to make that happen in fact she'd be lucky to have an extra $5K in savings, if that. WHAT!  How the heck did you manage that?  That is an awesome turn around for you that you can be very VERY proud of. Wow!  The look on her face was priceless. She had the biggest smile and was feeling really good about what a fantastic year she had created. In fact she said just that - I had a fantastic year and just didn't realize it, did I? Nope you didn't! You were more focused on what you thought wasn't working and ignoring all that was really working - exceedingly well.


Now I'm guessing there isn't anybody out 'there' that hasn't focused on the wrong stuff from time to time. I sure have done that a time or two ... oh heck  let's be honest - a hundred or more! Shoot maybe a thousand or more!!!


The trick is to re-frame your atti-tude and focus on and think only about what IS working and go from there.  And if you get stuck along the way ask a positive friend you trust to be honest with you to help you re-frame your atti-tude. And I might do that ASAP after you're 'aware' you're messing your mind all up and it's not going to create what you really want to create. Be focused on re-framing your tude!  Just Do It!


It's as Simple as Re-Framing Your Atti-Tude!


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I'm glad you were able to help your friend re-frame her attitude. Guess you made her day!

Posted by Marte Cliff, Your real estate writer (Marte Cliff Copywriting) 10 months ago

I love this story, Anna.  I remember one particular year where the real estate cycle was hitting a low point.  Because of it, I was running a little scared, and spent less, and saved more.  I had a similar outcome to what your friend experienced.  Real estate is cyclic.  We need to plan for that.  Then when things slow down, we can view it as respite, travel a little more, and relax.

Posted by Myrl Jeffcoat, Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent (GreatWest Realty) 10 months ago

CONGRATULATIONS Anna, on having this blog FEATURED in the Old Farts Club group!    

Posted by Myrl Jeffcoat, Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent (GreatWest Realty) 10 months ago

Anna Banana Kruchten CRS,CRB So ‘right on’ the crux of the issue.  Glad you not only helped your friends refocus her attitude but all of our if necessary.

Happy New Year

Posted by Mary Yonkers, Erie/PA Real Estate Instructor (Alan Kells School of Real Estate/Howard Hanna Real Estate) 10 months ago

Anna we have so much more that is positive in our lives than we do negative.  But for some odd reason the negative seems to get more attention.  The quicker we learn to turn that around the much happier life we will live.

Posted by George Souto, Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert (George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages) 10 months ago

that is what I love about you Anna Banana Kruchten CRS,CRB  the positive  attitude

Posted by Hannah Williams, Expertise NE Philadelphia & Bucks 215-953-8818 (Re/Max Eastern inc.) 10 months ago

Sometimes we need a friend to help us step back, ask us the right questions and help us to see what we are not seeing. Well done, sure she was very grateful when she left that meeting.

Posted by Nick & Trudy Vandekar, 610-203-4543, Tredyffrin Easttown Realtors, Philly Main Line (Long & Foster Real Estate Inc 610-225-7400) 10 months ago

There is so much negative in the world these days, it's easy to get sucked into that mind set.   If I ever get in a slump, I'm going to call you Anna Banana! 

Posted by Carol Williams, "Customized Mentoring & Marketing Services" (U.S.: I specialize in helping agents who have been in the business 2 years or less create a thriving business.) 10 months ago

Good evening Anna Banana Kruchten CRS,CRB ,

What a great post! Loved your story..your friend is lucky to have you..she knew exactly who to go to for getting her mojo back!! I refuse to get sucked into all the craziness going negatively please!!

Posted by Dorie Dillard CRS GRI ABR, Serving Buyers & Sellers in NW Austin Real Estate (Coldwell Banker United Realtors® ~ 512.346.1799) 10 months ago

Anna Banana Kruchten CRS,CRB  You have shared with us how your personal reframe made all the difference in the world for you. She's lucky to have you lead by example! All the best, Lynn

Posted by Lynn B. Friedman, Concierge Service for Our Atlanta Sellers & Buyers (Atlanta Homes ODAT Realty Call/Text 404-939-2727 Buckhead - Midtown - Westside -- and more ...) 10 months ago

Attitudes are very fragile and you must give them plenty of support while you rebuild the framework. Your friend is very lucky to have you Anna Banana Kruchten CRS,CRB 

Posted by Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®,CRS,, Tacoma Washington Agent/Broker & Market Authority! (RE/MAX Northwest.) 10 months ago

Isn't there a saying, "it's not how much you make but how much you keep"? You made your friend get her head straight. We definitely need to look on the positive side or else go nuts in this business.

Posted by Hella Mitschke Rothwell, Hawaii & California Real Estate Broker ((831) 626-4000) 10 months ago

HI Anna

What a good, and wise, friend you are. This is such good advice for all of us...I have certainly had times when my attitude really needed adjustment!


Posted by Jeff Dowler, CRS, The Southern California Relocation Dude (Solutions Real Estate ) 10 months ago

Anna, I just read your blog and something was hurting bad from last night and I couldn’t put to rest but reading your note made it easier. You said it well that if something or someone is not working reframe your thoughts on what is working and take it from there. I believe we all need advices from good friends like you time to time. Thanks 🙏

Posted by Muhammad Mushtaq, Broker/Realtor (Weichert, Realtors® - SBA Group) 10 months ago

Life's ebb and flow is taking inventory of everything going on around us. Not just the spread sheet but your friend's kids are fine, she is healthy, had a good holiday, marriage is strong, vacation cruise vacation coming up, community service project going well, making progress at the gym or on her diet, etc. What gives you joy. You build it. When you count your blessings, and then ask yourself what are you really unhappy about, all the riches outshine criticism and the lament that puts you in a rut.

Posted by Andrew Mooers | 207.532.6573, Northern Maine Real Estate-Aroostook County Broker (MOOERS REALTY) 10 months ago

Keeping our eyes on what we are doing right, and what we are grateful for, can seriously help keep us out of a rut. Attitude is an amazing thing - it either sucks you down, or brings you up.

Posted by Kat Palmiotti, The House Kat (Grand Lux Realty, Monroe NY, 914-419-0270, 10 months ago

Our attitude is one of the few things we really have control over, and it helps determine the path our life takes!

Posted by Walt Fish, Upper Michigan's Most Experienced Home Inspector (Bay Area Home Inspection, LLC) 10 months ago

Anna, it's good to have a good friend by your side at the right time! You sure helped your friend see things from a different and positive perspective and gave her the boost she needed!

Posted by Silvia Dukes PA, Broker Associate, CRS, CIPS, SRES, Florida Waterfront and Country Club Living (Tropic Shores Realty - Ich spreche Deutsch!) 10 months ago

Exactly Anna Banana Kruchten CRS,CRB it is how you look at something as to how well you will do at it. I was taught long ago to focus on the good in anything and build from it.

Posted by Scott Godzyk, One of Manchester NH's Leading Agents (Godzyk Real Estate Services) 10 months ago

Good morning Anna Banana Kruchten CRS,CRB, it's so easy to focus on the negative and push all the positive aside. If we can't cheer for ourselves, who would?  LOVE this post!

Posted by Beth Atalay, Cam Realty of Clermont FL (Cam Realty and Property Management) 10 months ago

Good one! Way to go!


Posted by Foster Ferryman, Broker in Charge (Foster Inc dba Foster & Billups Triad Properties) 10 months ago

Your worthy share reminded me of the man who was tasked with moving a very large pile of rocks from one point to another. Just to look and think upon it made it seem even more daunting. Then, he picked-up the first rock and made his move (pun) followed by another which gave him hope and the strength to carry (pun) on. When done the many inner and outer rewards were there waiting

Posted by Richie Alan Naggar, agent & author (people first...then business Ran Right Realty ) 10 months ago

Excellent post and reminder!  I remember seeing a lot of laments on FB around New Year's, a lot of people saying they were so glad 2017 was coming to an end, because it was such a horrible year. A lot of people nodding and agreeing, oh, yes, what a terrible year.  I honestly couldn't think of what they were even talking about - even when I've had unhappy things happen, I've never had what I would call a bad year.  A lot of it is perspective.  And I don't measure my life by the number of celebrity deaths. 

Posted by Susan Haughton, Susan & Mindy Team...Honesty. Integrity. Results. (Long and Foster REALTORS (703) 470-4545) 10 months ago

Thanks, Anna Banana Kruchten CRS,CRB - Here we are almost 10 days into the new year and I can definitely use a re-frame. That starts today! Thanks for the reminder. Happy New Year to you!

Posted by Jeff Stevens, Jeff Stevens REALTOR®/Associate Broker (Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices New Mexico Properties) 10 months ago

Anna Banana Kruchten CRS,CRB - Thanks for sharing a positively positive way to re-frame a problem. A good friend will listen; a great friend will re-frame what she heard into a proud accomplishment that even the storyteller didn't know she had!

Congratulations on your feature too!

Posted by Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI, Selling Homes Changing Lives (DFW FINE PROPERTIES) 10 months ago

AB, It's all in how we choose to look at things isn't it?  If I compare 2017 to 2016 (best year ever by far), I could think I had a poor year.  Yet despite many things personally and professionally going a bit sideways last year, I closed 13 deals and referred out two prospects that led to closings.  While the dollars weren't 2016 level, they were still pretty good, especially for someone working two careers :)   Bill

Posted by Liz and Bill Spear, RE/MAX Elite Warren County OH (Cincinnati/Dayton) (RE/MAX Elite 513.520.5305 10 months ago

If all goes well for one week except for that one thing...we tend to focus on that one thing.  Crazy isn't it?

Posted by Jeanne Gregory, The most important home I sell is YOURS! (RE/MAX Southwest) 10 months ago

What an inspirational post! Thank you so much. We all need to reset ourselves periodically. Market conditions change but if we have confidence in our skills, we can find ways to succeeed no matter how the market performs. I believe we each control our destiny. Thanks for sharing.

Posted by Delphine Nguyen (Baird & Warner) 10 months ago

Good morning Anna. Oh how smart this is. I think that having a thoughful friend like you can always be helpful.

Posted by Sheila Anderson, The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133 (Referral Group Incorporated) 10 months ago

Anna Banana Kruchten CRS,CRB ~ sometimes it is just as simple as making a little adjustment in the way we attack the day. No matter what, the attitude we bring to the table is very important and really makes a big difference one way or another

Posted by Jon Kolsky, Licensed California Real Estate Broker (Kolsky Realty & Management) 10 months ago

It never hurts to look on the bright side for sure. Any time we have a better outlook on life, everything seems to go smoother.

Posted by JL Boney, III, Columbia, SC Real Estate (Coldwell Banker) 10 months ago

thanks for posting a wonderful story and something we should all be cognizant of everyday. You are a dear friend for pointing those achievements out to her.

We really can change our attitudes by the way we think. Abraham Lincoln may have said it best, "We are about as happy as we make our mind up to be." (paraphrase)

I must confess, the 2018 challenges given to us last week by ActiveRain sure helped me put my own attitude in the right place and mind in gear to kill 2018! Thank you ActiveRain members!

Posted by David Wright, Real Estate Refined (Benchmark Realty, LLC) 10 months ago

Anna Banana Kruchten CRS,CRB Congratulations on the well deserved Feature!  Your post coves something that many do and don't realize...hitting the restart on your attitude is a game changer!

Posted by Lisa Von Domek, ....Experience Isn't Expensive.... It's Priceless! (Lisa Von Domek Team) 10 months ago

Excellent post Anna.  Love the way you shared this message with all of us.  

Posted by Paula McDonald, Magnolia Realty ~ Granbury, TX 936-203-0279 (Magnolia Realty ~ Granbury) 10 months ago

Oh my gosh, so true. I gotta be honest, I'm sick of hearing how tough life has been, is, will be, blah blah blah. Get the hell over it! Grow up. Life marches on, with, or without us. It's how we look at things, and ourselves, that can really change our attitude - and eventually our life. You are a wonderful friend, mentor, and the Top Banana for good reason. Bravo on great advice and for sharing a story that we can relate to from time-to-time. D 

Posted by Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD, REALTORS® in Clark County, WA (ViewHomes of Clark County - Nature As Neighbors) 10 months ago

Sometimes we just need someone to talk to and listen to us.  They can help point us in the right direction!  Thank you for sharing.

Posted by Karen Feltman, Relocation Specialist in Cedar Rapids, Iowa (Cedar Rapids/Iowa City, IA KW Legacy Group) 10 months ago

Sometimes adjusting the way we look at things can make all the difference. Realizing the positives of a situation can change the feel of the whole situation. Thank you for sharing!

Posted by Corey Martin, Real Estate and Management Solutions (Martin Presence Group) 10 months ago

Hi Anna- I love this post! And you asked your friend just the right question. You managed to take her mind off of The negative or at least what she thought was so and turn it towards looking at all that she had.

Posted by Kathy Streib, Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224 (Room Service Home Staging) 10 months ago

An important reminder to compare the achievements to the goals and objectives before hitting the depressed button. Another way to determine success even if income is 20% less is to measure the amount of time spent to earn your income. So, if I worked 50% less time and earned 20% less working at 100%, should I be concerned, should you? Your attitude determines your altitude is a discipline that IMO leads to success. Great post.

Posted by Kimo Jarrett, Pro Lifestyle Solutions (WikiWiki Realty) 10 months ago

Dear Anna,

But it is so much easier to kvetch about the one that got away than the little one you took home in a bucket for dinner that night.

Posted by Dörte Engel, ABC - Annapolis, Bowie, Crofton & rest of Maryland (RE/MAX Leading Edge) 10 months ago

Good evening Anna Banana Kruchten CRS,CRB -  it is all true and like Zig Ziglar said, "Your attitude determines your altitude."  Knowing she had a great year will propel this year.

Posted by Grant Schneider, Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes (Performance Development Strategies) 10 months ago

It's funny how a positive was right there in front of her face but she focused only on the negative. It's a great story & reframing is a great idea. If you write it down & discect it - there's something good to cheer about just like your friend.

It's really hard sometimes to pull yourself out of the pit.

Posted by Lyn Sims, Schaumburg IL Real Estate (RE/MAX Suburban) 10 months ago

I think we all have a tendency to be our own worst critics, Anna Banana Kruchten CRS,CRB ... seems like that was the case with your friend.  Thankfully she had you to brighten her outlook and her day ...


Posted by Gene Mundt, IL/WI Mortgage Originator - FHA/VA/Conv/Jumbo/Portfolio/Refi, 708.921.6331 - 40+ yrs experience (NMLS #216987, IL Lic. 031.0006220, WI Licensed. APMC NMLS #175656) 10 months ago

Anna, we can easily spend a lifetime on what is going wrong. The world surrounds us with it.

Re-framing the attitude is a great phrase. It is also a wise choice to make.

Focus on what is good and what is working for you.


Posted by John Wiley, Lee County, FL Real Estate GRI, SRES,GREEN,PSA (Right Move Real Estate Group- EXP Realty) 10 months ago


Your friend is so lucky to have you!

''And if you get stuck along the way ask a positive friend you trust to be honest with you to help you re-frame your atti-tude.''

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) 10 months ago

You are very good at seeing the bright side of things.  I can see why you guys have been friends for years.  Whenever I need a pick me up - I know who to call!

Posted by Belinda Spillman, Colorado Living! (Aspen Lane Real Estate Colorful Colorado) 10 months ago

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